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Raging tempers…

8 May

So I broke off (platonic equivalent of break-up… is there a better phrase that is as compact and more established? Okay, parted ways) with old friend, Pankaj, today. This once, it was him who did the honours (block on Gtalk, delete from Facebook) and not me (and I wouldn’t succumb to those actions in this matter, which I consider trivial), and I would like to have that on record.

Anyway, it started with an argument. He read this article very fleetingly, and made an elaborate and (I feel) ill-informed opinion on it. I objected in strong words. We argued. It ended badly.

He says Kasab should’ve been shot as soon as the investigators derived from him that he had no information to offer.
[He also feels that Kasab may as well have been accommodated at the Taj, since his cost of daily up-keep would’ve probably come to the same amount of Rs. 85-lakh per day. {The figure in the news article reads Rs. 8.5 lakhs per day. As I said, he read the article in one fleeting glance. Thank you for pointing it out, Tauja!}] But I’m not saying that Rs. 8.5 lakhs is an acceptable amount either.
But that he maintains that Kasab should’ve been shot as soon as they figured out he had no more valuable information to offer, ergo without trial is worth discussing.

When celebrities or politicians are accused of any crime, and receive special treatment in their trials etc. etc. the common man is up in arms saying that they should be treated like anyone else.
So is it fair for us to deny Kasab a trial? Would that not be equivalent to denying him the rights accorded to the common man? Or should nobody be accorded a free and fair trial?
Is it healthy for us to nurture such glaring hypocrisies in our attitude? Or should we just go ahead and rewrite the constitution to accord different rights to different types of people? Or just go about making exceptions everywhere and then fighting over which exception is fair and which is not?

Are most/all of the democratic countries of the world (Please correct me if I’m wrong on this, peeps…) stupid in allowing the accused, any accused, of any crime a trial before convicting him of charges? (And the right to appeal the sentence in higher courts.) Would we be okay if tomorrow YOU weren’t allowed to appeal in a higher court? Sure, Manu Sharma would have been acquitted.
Or maybe we could just make an exception here and an exception there, and then argue over it forever?

I welcome your comments on the questions phrased above. What I do NOT welcome are comments about how the judicial system needs to be improved. Yes, the judicial system needs to be improved. The trial should’ve been completed in a matter of months and not 18. We all know that, and I’m sure we’d all agree on it too. So let’s discuss the issue that I wrote this entire post to discuss. We can discuss Judicial reforms on a later date, capisce?

Oh, and one more thing. Rs. 1,500 crore for a cricket team in a month-long intra-national cricket event. Rs. 31 crore over protecting the escape of the most dreaded criminal this country has ever set hands on, over a period of one and a half years. Am I the ONLY one who thinks the 31-crores is REALLY inconsequential here?

The “Nature” of Suicide

9 Aug

[Please read this post all the way till the end before dropping a comment]

A recent post on Pesto Sauce’s blog got me thinking. About suicide.

I’m not suicidal. I’ve never attempted to kill myself, and am frankly petrified at the very thought of attempting it (particularly the thought of the pain one would have to subject oneself to, whatever the mode of suicide was to be, before one’s body would give in.)
But it’s that lack of suicidal trait in me that makes me step back and not judge someone who is.


Think of it this way. Lots of people say that being gay is being mentally sick. That it’s because an individual went astray, became perverted or corrupted by temptation or western civilization. Yet, several of us have never known heterosexuality, or what it’s like to be straight or “normal” and would associate with our sexuality from ever since we can remember, but those people who think we’re mentally sick, and do not know that this is how we were born would not be convinced of the same unless they went through it themselves. Frankly, I doubt that even the straight people reading this blog firmly acknowledge or believe that sexuality is something that we were born with, however open-minded, accepting and encouraging you are.
My point is that only a gay person can truly know what goes on in the mind of a gay person.

Hence, only a suicidal person can know what really goes on inside his head, and everybody else is simply jumping to unwarranted conclusions when they say that suicide is cowardice.
What if suicide is comforting? What if death brings bliss? Why should we deny a person his right to what makes him happy?

Back in my school years, there was simply nothing that I had to look forward to (except maybe the next summer vacations… a month or two away from school). I was extremely depressed and pessimistic. I often went to sleep with the comforting thoughts of dying and being liberated from my insipid existance. Today, life is much better but the thought of death brings tremendous comfort. The thought that I wouldn’t have to wake up another day and face a million other challenges.
Challenges are not exciting when you face them alone… not to everyone. Not everybody has something or the other to look forward to. Some live life because they have to, taking each day as it comes with no concrete plan or expectations. When they get tired, they take a blissful moment and think about death, liberation. Moksha.

Thus, when I hear of people who attempt to commit suicide, I do not jump at calling them cowards. Maybe some of them are. But I cannot generalize. Because I’m not suicidal myself, I do not know what goes on in the mind of someone who is. Hence, I cannot draw a just judgement. Just the way that someone who isn’t gay is likely to come to an inaccurate judgement of my “condition”.

I could extend the same train of thought to the case of paedophiles. It is another classic group of people that we’re all too quick to condemn. However, attraction (including sexual attraction) is natural, right? We cannot contain it. Some people cannot help being attracted to people of the opposite sex, some others cannot control their attraction to members of the same sex.
Maybe it’s quite the same way that some men (and maybe women) are attracted to people who are extremely young of either sex. Maybe the feeling is completely natural. I do not know, because I do not have those emotions within me, so I cannot jump to conclusions on those individuals, unless I was in their shoes.
So does that vindicate paedophilia? According to my dictionary, it might, because my dictionary defines paedophilia as “A sexual attraction to children”, and for all we know, this attraction may be in their nature. But does it justify a person forcing him or herself onto a child because of his something that is possibly innate?

It does not. Because it causes harm to someone else. To the child, who is not emotionally mature enough to express consent, or is never asked for it. Paedophilia may not be wrong but acting on it must be condemned because it harms someone else.

Quite the same way, I feel that suicidal tendencies may not be wrong because we do not know what the person with those inclinations is having to face in life. We may not know what are his or her reasons behind wanting to call it a day. For all we know, they may want to commit suicide because the thought of it makes them happy but if the act would bring grief to anyone who is close to the individual contemplating suicide, then that may amount to causing harm to another, and is a factor that must be resolved before any such act, between all the people involved.

Many are quick to say that suicide is an act of cowardice. I think it is cowardly to jump to conclusions about someone else’s life or character without trying to understand it.
Many proudly say that life is beautiful. I think it’s a very subjective matter, and not a sweeping statement to be made. YOUR life may be beautiful, but it is in finding this so-called “beauty” that many of us fail.

Paint the Town Beautiful

5 Aug

I am thoroughly surprised. At all those individuals who told me that swimming is a glorious exercise and helps you get in shape and stay that way. I’m disgruntled with all those who expressed admiration for the “swimmer body”. If the above were indeed true, how can you explain all the Yokozuna Jr.’s that I’ve been encountering endlessly at our pool? Why were 4 out of 5 people at the pool this afternoon severely overweight? I don’t mean slightly or varyingly overweight, but let’s just say that all of them had enough fat to go through several sittings of liposuction.

Ladies, I beseech you to ensure that your elder (to me) brothers and male friends be forbidden from publicly walking in a bathing suit unless they’re in suitable form (as per my judgement). Men, I urge you to slim down to a reasonable extent if you aren’t quite there already, at least to a stage whereby innocent people like me would not be significantly disturbed at your very half-naked sight.

For I have a mission. I have a dream. I dream that someday, everyone that walks on this planet will be as attractive as can be. No, I’m NOT gender-biased.

Only this morning, at the canteen, Alika was standing with a friend who I’m vaguely acquainted to. I went up to say hullo, and Alika asked me in an all too excited voice :-

Alika : UsP, is she looking fat at all?

Me : Ummm… Not really…

Alika : Whaddaya mean “Not really”?? She’s So THIN!

Me : Well, thinner than you in any case! She looks fine.

She : SEE? I told you so!

Me : (Sensing the despair in She’s voice) Well, you’re not looking fat. I won’t say you’re thin… but you’re certainly not fat.

Alika : You’re such a creep!

Me : Whaa! I’m not saying she needs to lose weight or anything! She just shouldn’t gain anymore… She should remain just the way she is….

… of course, there’s no such thing as “too thin” so…

Alika : I don’t even know why I asked you…

Me : You’re getting me wrong! Hold on… Let me find a reference…
(Looking around) Hmmm… no… Certainly not her! …. Nope, not that one!
OMG look at that giant!
Geez, why are all the girls here so fat!

Alika : Uff! Bye!

You get the gist…
So ladies and gentlemen… Get in shape!

Always remember… the best contribution you can make towards preventing global warming is fighting obesity!
Swimming Pool

Hem-Locked in Ignorance

9 Jul

It’s extremely tragic to hear of the 86 deaths that occurred in Gujarat. It’s politically incorrect to take an objective stand on such an issue, for the sake of sounding insensitive.

For instance, it’s politically incorrect to say that all those men pretty much invited this fate upon themselves by drinking illegally obtained alcohol in large quantities, when in fact that money could’ve been used for the welfare of their family… that lots of destitute wives and children suffer because the “bread-winners” don’t bring as much food to the table as they are capable of.

It’s also politically incorrect to say that the bootleggers are hardly at fault for simply selling the liquor under the table that they have no way to distinguish from poison. That maybe if the government wasn’t such a nut-case and instead legalised alcohol in the state so that it wouldn’t have to be sold illegally, genuine alcohol could be sold, the state wouldn’t live in denial and such incidents wouldn’t arise.

But one shouldn’t make politically incorrect statements, should one.

Life Lessons

7 Apr

Came across this delightful write-up on Gay.Com titled Life-Lessons-For-A-Gay-Man. Just highlighting a few that I really need to take notice of!

A friend of mine and I were enjoying lunch together and talking about all the misadventures we’ve had throughout the years. It got me thinking about how there are so many life lessons you learn as a gay man but we never seem to share them all with each other. There is no book or guide for us….YET.

I thought I would share with you the lessons I’ve learned so far, hoping they’ll help you along your journey. Some may be lessons you already know, but it never hurts to hear them again, and they may even help us support each other through life.

Here are 20 life lessons for a gay man:

1. If he cheated on his ex, there is a good chance he will cheat on you.

2. Just because he has big feet doesn’t mean he will have a big dick.

3. No one will make you happy. You have to make yourself happy.

4. Putting 28 as your age on your online profile because you think you look 28 doesn’t make you 28.

5. To get love, you must give love.

6. Opportunity knocks only once, so you need to be ready to answer the door.

7. There are two types of people: go-getters and no-getters. Choose which one you want to be.

8. Learn to forgive and let go; no one likes someone who is bitter.

9. You are not very straight-acting if you want to have sex with guys. I do not know any straight people who would do that.

10. The guy you diss today could be the best friend of the guy you want tomorrow.

11. Don’t be an asshole

12. If you don’t know where you are going in life you’ill be stuck exactly where you are right now.

13. Learn to laugh at yourself.

14. When the online ad says it’s his first time doing this, I doubt it.

15. A boyfriend will never complete your life; he can only add to it.

16. A friend points out you flaws. A true friend loves you as you are.

17. In 2009, there is no excuse not to have an online picture. NONE.

18. We can either look for the flaws, mistakes and shortcomings in people and people, or we can look for the successes, the opportunities and the joy.

19. No one cares what you say you are going to do. They only care what you actually do.

20. When in doubt, just whip it out.

OK, so maybe number 20 isn’t the best life lesson but you get the point. I really hope these life lessons help you out or even make you laugh. These days, we can all use a good laugh.

I would love to hear what life lessons you can share with us. What are some you have learned along the way?

Like Geez! I really do need to know what I want to do with myself!


23 Mar

I just discovered this website that contains the exact content that I would’ve wanted to broadcast over the internet. A project that I wanted to, but never would’ve undertaken. But these people did, and they’re doing it professionally.

Thanks to Kafila, I got to hear of this heart-wrenching story that made me think that maybe India isn’t all that much a lunatic, and then I read this story and I realised that it very much is.

Hail Renuka!

8 Feb

In times when even a country’s administration begins to inadvertently side with the bad guys, one truly becomes thankful for small mercies.

In the wake of Mangalore and such, I’m rather thankful for one Ms. Renuka Chowdhury.
I won’t deny that I’ve always admired the woman. Sure she’s not much of a debater and for all I know, she must be as corrupt as the rest of them, but I truly truly admire her for standing up for the youth on this one.

Who could imagine that when all the chief ministers were on a mission to denounce “pub culture”, this fine lady could actually recommend a campaign to the tune of “pub bharo”?! I mean, wow! One expects that from celebrities, rockstars, on-screen personalities… but from the Union Minister for Women and Child Development? It’s utterly superb and fantastic! No, she’s not urging the youth to take to drinking, for all those narrow-minded cynics who are interpreting her intentions as such, but merely egging the youth to be as defiant towards unreasonable societal elements as she herself had been back in her day, and remains till today.

If that wasn’t enough, Renuka screamed bloody murder post Sri Ram Sene’s threat to unleash terror on valentine’s day, demanding action against them for issuing the threats that they did.

It’s a shame that no one takes her too seriously, whether in political debates or those pertaining to “morality”. Which only furthers my desire to run away from this land that’s so full of delinquents that are are the only ones who are heard, and of limited educated elite who may fill up newspapers with rational and reasonable thought that would still make no difference.

Sigh! Get me out of here, please 😦