All you get from love is a lovesong

4 Apr

So I’ve seen a million romantic flicks in the past few months (by my standards… 3-4 as per common methods of census)

With each flick, one finds it more and more ridiculous just how unrealistic they are. I really wonder why people make such films at all. Surely love isn’t so magical, so perfect… And nearly non-existent in the gay world.

The more and more I observe relationships, straight and (flimsy) gay (ones), the more I wonder how they survive the complexity of human emotions. For instance, the more and more Hagatha spends time with her boyfriend, the more compromises she makes for him (while I see him make none). The more her loyalties shift to him, to his opinion on matters (accelerated by the fact that she has very few of her own) and away from other friends. Clearly I could play similar games, but one could only do that unconsciously. The harder it will become for her to retain the equations she had with her friends. When one observes so clearly such forces in action, one can only look at them and wonder the complexity of relationships and romance. Sure one may say we’re young and immature and that we would change with time. But it would still be a far call from stuff that films are made of, right? One really wonders what all these romance flicks are made of. And what it is about them that makes one feel good. The illusion that someday they’ll have the same?

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11 Responses to “All you get from love is a lovesong”

  1. Phunk Factor April 4, 2010 at 11:53 pm #

    I guess it’s just to make people feel happy and good for a while….obviously THOSE stories are entirely fictional and if someone actually believes them to be true, well….they probably also think that the moon is made of cheese! :p

    Watch them, enjoy them(If they’re not ridiculously trashy), recommend them(Again if they’re not ridiculously trashy) and forget them(As soon as possible if they’re ridiculously trashy)!

    • unsungpsalm April 6, 2010 at 7:45 pm #

      Hope you’re talking about Chick-flicks through that entire comment 😛

  2. Vlad April 5, 2010 at 3:40 am #

    For instance, the more and more Hagatha spends time with her boyfriend, the more compromises she makes for him (while I see him make none).

    Strictly speaking, the fact you don’t see something does not mean it does not exist 🙂 Relationships are based on compromises – otherwise different people are too different to co-exist…

    • unsungpsalm April 6, 2010 at 7:44 pm #

      Oh, I know the girl inside out. To the extent of her very thought process. And there is little that she doesn’t tell me.

      Okay, that might’ve changed in view of this relationship, but I know that if there was something in there, I would know it…

  3. DewdropDream April 5, 2010 at 7:15 pm #

    You listen to The Carpenters?! I’m looking at you with new eyes now!

    You know the thing about love? It’s like a bumblebee.

    “The bumblebee should not be able to fly. Its body is too big and its wings are too short. Scientists say it should not be able to fly. Aerodynamically, it should be … So how does the bumblebee fly? We don’t know. But it does fly.”

    Despite all evidence to the contrary, love continues to exist. It defies logic.

    Which is not to say it’s the answer in all cases, but like Vlad says “the fact you don’t see something does not mean it does not exist”.

    All things considered, it just might be himanity’s one saving grace and its only hope.

    • unsungpsalm April 6, 2010 at 7:42 pm #

      Been a fan of Karen since the early days 🙂

      Wondering if you’re right about love… As in, to what time-frame it’s applicable…

      • DewdropDream April 6, 2010 at 9:15 pm #

        Either I’m hanging out with the wrong crowd or the person who told me people a generation older listened to the Carpenters is wrong.

        As for a time-frame, I think it exists and can be measured in moments only. Any longer and it tends to get diluted with all the other crap around …

        That’s the thing about rom-coms … they show you undiluted mush. Real-life ain’t giving you the opportunity to live in undiluted mush, there’s too much floating around for that. Plus, a movie ends in 2 hours. Life goes on muuuuuuuuuuuuchhhhhhh longer.

        • unsungpsalm April 6, 2010 at 10:45 pm #

          Oh yes, that’s the worst! Life simply goes on…

          I wish for once they’d release a sequel to a mushy story that showed what happened 5 years hence…

  4. DewdropDream April 5, 2010 at 10:47 pm #

    hUmanity* Typos will be the death of me someday

  5. Pesto Sauce April 6, 2010 at 10:13 pm #

    Why do you say there is no love among gays…

    • unsungpsalm April 6, 2010 at 10:44 pm #

      Oh, there is… The expiry date comes a lot sooner, that’s all.

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