Gay Adoption – When Double Standards are good…

19 Nov

I just read an editorial on DNA that says that by allowing gay couples from abroad to be able to bear children through surrogacy here, it’s amounting to double standards since Homosexuality is banned in the same country. Though the article means well, I feel that more of such coverage would do more harm than good. I feel it’s somewhat unwise to draw attention to that fact, as it might just catch the fancy of the government, which would in turn endeavour to lay down further restraints on surrogacy programs and prohibit same-sex couples from adopting here. Yes, so this entire surrogacy program could figuratively be going on “underground” and not out in the open, but I feel that’s the only way it can exist within our boundaries, in the present context.

It is rather obvious that it is the ICMR who has so far decided the guidelines that must be followed, and obviously, would have to be more progressive to not object gay adoption, while it was in its jurisdiction. Quite the same way in which the Health Dept. would’ve struck down 377 decades ago if it had had the authority.
But trust the old goons, most of which run our country, to oppose anything that doesn’t reflect the opinion of “the people”, i.e. themselves.

Frankly, it’s wonderful that gay people have an option, and even more so that it is in this very country. Yes, so their may exist a rather important side-agenda of generating income for the donor mothers and for keeping the IVF clinics (and more importantly, the research) running, and not so much about “helping same-sex couples bear a child”, but I am not complaining! However, if it takes discreetness to keep the current state of affairs unaffected and unaltered, that’s the way it ought to be.


9 Responses to “Gay Adoption – When Double Standards are good…”

  1. D November 19, 2008 at 12:15 pm #

    It’s interesting and stupid at the same time how such articles would spur the government to clam on existing gay liberties rather than be able to see through their double standards and go the other way.

  2. UnsungPsalm November 19, 2008 at 1:18 pm #

    It would be unlikely that they took any notice at all, going by how ignorant they choose to be of public opinion expressed through the media. But, as I said, I wouldn’t take chances for one.
    If this happened to be the one time Renuka Chaudhry decided to open a paper and see (just for a change) what was happening in urban India… and opine on whether it suited ‘Indian culture and traditions’

  3. Jay November 19, 2008 at 8:00 pm #

    Did you really write this post? Or were you drunk? Or maybe sleepy…?

  4. unsungpsalm November 19, 2008 at 11:17 pm #

    If you refer to the grammatical errors, then yes. I was in a hurry, so slipped now and then.
    You know my grammar is par excellence when I’m drunk,and I wouldn’t be sleepy that early in the morning.

    If you refer to the content, then, well… that’s how I feel. I don’t think that the Indian public needs to be enlightened about the surrogacy option for gay couples. Someone’s bound to object! And we wouldn’t want that, now, would we… If it’s a loophole in the law that allows gay people to adopt, then it’s best we remain discreet about that, right? Because I’m quite sure that the ICMR did not endeavour to extend the option to same-sex couples, and are merely not objecting to it, now that they’ve discovered that the rules they set happen to be so inclusive.
    This Israeli couple was, in fact, only the second couple so far. We’re in nascent stages, as yet, oh having a comprehensive policy on surrogacy. I hope it remains that way, though I believe there were talks some months ago of revising it.

  5. ulla November 20, 2008 at 12:42 am #

    your interview’s up 🙂

    i love your blog

    and your grammar’s perfect

    so there

  6. Rambunctious WhipperSnapper November 20, 2008 at 2:11 pm #

    We don’t need to conduct our business in the shadow of secrecy just because we are gay. It’s just two people wanting to adopt a kid. There is no need to act like it’s a covert KGB operation.

    Gay couples rushing to adopt kids just proves that even gay people want the mediocrity of marriage and the whole package with the white picket fences.

    And just because a few million people want to pass a law doesn’t mean that they are going to pass it. You’re confusing India with some European country.

    We barely pass any legislation as it is.

  7. unsungpsalm November 20, 2008 at 10:34 pm #

    *Thanks Ulla! That’s a story I was wanting to tell for quite some time… Glad that I could use your fantastic space for that purpose 🙂

    No, we don’t need to act like it’s a covert KGB operation. Then again, we don’t want the following situation to arise…

    India’s LGBT Community : Hey, your laws allow us to adopt kids as couples. But we’re criminals in the eyes of the law. That’s hypocrisy and it won’t do.

    Renuka Chaudhary : Thanks for bringing it to our notice. A child needs a normal cultured Indian household to have a good cultured upbringing. So we’ll withdraw your rights to adopt. Then it won’d amount to hypocrisy.

    India’s LGBT Community : Damn.

  8. Rambunctious WhipperSnapper November 21, 2008 at 12:02 am #


    India’s LGBT community: Hey, no one is storming into our bedrooms and stopping us from having sex. At least not yet anyway.

    India’s LGBT community: Hey, I love my same-sex partner. We should adopt kids.

    Indian media: Look at that harmless little gay couple having surrogate kids. How cute.

    Renuka Chaudhary: Damn. I’m bored today. I’d like to do something constructive with my time like wrestle the Great Khali into submission. Growl.

    India’s LGBT community: You go, girl

    Unsung Pslam: Is that egg on my face or something else that is white?

    (The last one was unnecessary, but somethings are better left said).

  9. unsungpsalm November 21, 2008 at 7:08 am #

    Egg, I hope. I need to have lots and lots of eggs now, to gain some muscle mass.

    Or was that another sexual innuendo 😐

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