Darn It, He knows… « The Unsung Psalm

Darn It, He knows…

July 18, 2009 at 11:52 pm | In Coming Out, Dad | 18 Comments
Tags: Coming Out, Dad, Homophobia

So I’ve been writing about it for quite some time now, how my pop’s surely aware of my sexuality, and being all supportive about it. Whether it would be in terms of calling Baba Ramdev a total idiot (and me Dad’s a huge yoga fanatic) to several other comments he’s passed against the homophobic lot, dad’s wearing rainbow colours for his son.

I was trying to be in denial about it all, but I think it’s starting to sink in.

Earlier at dinner today, he and mom were having another tiff. I eventually concluded, “You two are just a disaster together…”

To that he responded in a somewhat soft voice, “When you’re with your spouse, 20 years from now, you’ll know.”

“What did you say?” I asked, thinking I hadn’t heard him properly.

Turned out that I had. “You and your spouse.” SPOUSE!
Who uses the word Spouse anymore! Why not “wife”! Ohh no, it’s Spouse! And he said it both times! I had to bow my head down to suppress my embarrassed smile.

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Beginning of good times I suppose. Your dad is super cool.

Comment by BlueMist — July 19, 2009 #

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- I’m just not ready for a such a super cool dad, as yet
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 19, 2009 #
  
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  - ah okay. May be he is also not sure and trying to gauge the things by your reactions. just a possibility. and me too thinks “spouse” can be a husband or wife. so don’t worry too much.
    
    Comment by BlueMist — July 19, 2009 #
    
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    - Naw, truth is that he’s a very, very clever man.
      
      And he’s one person who doesn’t quite conform to the concept of a “generation gap”…
      
      Yep, he’s probably watching my reaction very acutely. Which is why I think he knows!
      
      Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
      
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kuchh baat chhupaaye nahi chhupte

Comment by Pesto Sauce — July 19, 2009 #

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- Oh lord, now what do I say to that :S
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 19, 2009 #
  
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Dictionary says Spouse means “A marriage partner; a husband or wife.”
How can you be sure of what he meant … ?

Comment by Karan — July 19, 2009 #

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- I cannot be sure, I can only suspect.
  
  But isn’t it just so much easier to say “wife”? Anyhow, it adds up; this and all the incidents prior to this. So I felt that he was being clever in a very subtle manner…
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 19, 2009 #
  
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Look at it another way. He might have used SPOUSE out of spite for your mom, refusing to acknowledge her presence as ‘wife’ given that they were midway through another tiff.

Comment by PedroNYC — July 19, 2009 #

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- Haha, no… he never does anything of the sort.
  
  He scarcely retaliates to anything mom says, anyway. His manner of revenge is by not heeding a word of what she says…
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
  
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It sounds as if your dad’s a wise man.

Comment by Jackdaw — July 19, 2009 #

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- You hit the nail on the head, Jack
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
  
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Haha! Awesome. What’s next?

Comment by Firebolt — July 20, 2009 #

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- No drama on that front for 6 months, at least. I’m officially away from Delhi
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
  
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So I guess in future, you will be coming out to your dad first.

Reading your dad’s conversation from the prior incident, there could be two possibilities:
He likes to freak your mom out with homosexuality or the second,
he is trying to make her more homo-friendly.

I hope that it is the second.

Comment by Crazy Sam — July 21, 2009 #

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- He’s not really trying to alter her opinion in any way… At least not around me…
  I don’t know the private conversations that they have though!
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
  
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hello knock knock !!
Anybody there ?
Wondering where you have gone missing. Come back pliss !!

Comment by BlueMist — July 21, 2009 #

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- I’m back, I’m back
  
  Comment by unsungpsalm — July 21, 2009 #
  
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