Comments on: Gay-volution

By: unsungpsalm

unsungpsalm — Sat, 06 Sep 2008 03:03:08 +0000

That’s fabulous! Some one is going to be a very very lucky parent (or two!) Congratulations to them and congratulations to you for making it happen!

I suppose now that I am aware, I have unconsciously started building my plans around a hope of coming across one of these individuals who could make it happen for people like us

It gives one some purpose to live.

By: robynanne

robynanne — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 18:53:42 +0000

Hey! Look at you commenting back 15 minutes after me! That is a relief! It does make a difference to know that you didn’t really think it was possible.

Actually, there are a number of people that sign up to be carriers. Many of them, like myself, have personal experience that would lead them to understand the grief of not having a very wanted child.

We just found out we’re having twins!!

By: unsungpsalm

unsungpsalm — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 21:00:52 +0000

hi Robyn. First of all, I’m delighted that you came across my post. I must confess that I did not know that there were people out there who would genuinely make that sort of sacrifice (carrying another’s child for 9 months) for someone else. So that is very reassuring and truly a gratifying thought!

I do not, of course, insist on intending to literally buy a woman, which is why I explicitly placed “buy” in double quotes. But I suppose I wasn’t very explicit about what I did mean, right?
I think it’s a mountain of a sacrifice for a woman to carry another’s child for 9 months. I did not, before reading your message, imagine that there would be those who were doing it voluntarily for people that they had not had any connection with, in life. The usage of the phrase “buy” was simply to get across how absurd the idea seemed to me that a woman would actually make such a sacrifice, and expecting it of another was like wanting to buy another human being in the 21st century… aka, next to impossible. And I have only twice before heard of such a situation, one such case being here in India, where the woman who carried the child for 2 foreign nationals, did so to feed her family and herself.
Not only would I admire someone who did consent to bear my child, I would worship her and owe my allegiance to her.
I do hope I come across such a person in my lifetime. And I take my hats off to you for your selflessness and consideration.

By: robynanne

robynanne — Tue, 19 Aug 2008 20:45:57 +0000

Hi there. I’m a surrogate for a gay couple. It will take a whole lot longer for you to raise the funds to ‘afford to buy a woman’ if you insist on phrasing it that way. There are plenty of people out there that want to help others have a family… but if you think of your surrogate carrier that way, you’ll have to find one of the ones that charges $30K+ to put up with the insulting way that you refer to her. But that is just some advice as you seem to have plenty of time having not yet found the partner that you’d like to carry this out with.

It certainly isn’t a crazy desire though – and odds are you’ll find plenty of dating material that would also like to have a family. Being gay doesn’t have to mean barren.

By: chandni

chandni — Thu, 19 Jun 2008 07:02:55 +0000

Interesting post there….I am here to tell you that these thoughts are very common. With everyone!!!

I personally am not that big on children though…and lean more towards adoption. My logic being that there are already so many out there who need homes and love and a family, why produce more!

By: Crazy Sam

Crazy Sam — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 14:18:32 +0000

Whenever I questioned myself, “Do I wish to raise a baby?”, the answer will scream at me, “NO!!”
But now when I read this post, especially this, – “I can imagine no pleasure greater than holding in one’s arms one’s own off-spring. One’s own creation. An element of one’s own being.” – I’m finding that scream becoming feebler.

By: unsungpsalm

unsungpsalm — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 16:17:11 +0000

Okay, I have to ask! How lazy are you? You tend to attribute it to a massive size, but surely you’re exaggerating, because that is the very root of your humour.
Frankly, if you’re an (ex)Adnam Sami, you should honestly work at it, else you’ll die and I’ll have to remove your link from my blogroll, and I feel too lazy to do that.

By: Rambunctious WhipperSnapper

Rambunctious WhipperSnapper — Tue, 17 Jun 2008 13:09:41 +0000

You’re right. This is at the back of most of our minds.

I once had a whole scenario planned out wherein my boy & i get married to a couple of lesbians, buy houses next to each other and live in unholy matrimony.

But then I thought I don’t care what anyone thinks so I’d rather we bring up our own children. Then, I wonder if I’ll be a good Dad. I mean being a Dad involves work, which implies that one has to move one’s ass from the chair and get up and do something productive. Which, is usually an impossibility for me. …